{"id":134,"date":"2011-05-24T14:00:09","date_gmt":"2011-05-24T02:00:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/wisdomhealthprosperity.com\/selfimprovementmastery\/?p=134"},"modified":"2011-05-24T14:00:09","modified_gmt":"2011-05-24T02:00:09","slug":"your-personality-you%e2%80%99re-not-your-personality","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/wisdomhealthprosperity.com\/selfimprovementmastery\/your-personality-you%e2%80%99re-not-your-personality\/","title":{"rendered":"Your Personality: You\u2019re Not Your Personality"},"content":{"rendered":"<!-- Easy AdSense V2.99 -->\n<!-- Post[count: 1] -->\n<div class=\"ezAdsense adsense adsense-leadin\" style=\"float:right;margin:12px;\"><script type=\"text\/javascript\"><!--\r\ngoogle_ad_client = \"ca-pub-8279754544979895\";\r\n\/* self improve3 *\/\r\ngoogle_ad_slot = \"2464079329\";\r\ngoogle_ad_width = 250;\r\ngoogle_ad_height = 250;\r\n\/\/-->\r\n<\/script>\r\n<script type=\"text\/javascript\"\r\nsrc=\"http:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/show_ads.js\">\r\n<\/script><\/div>\n<!-- Easy AdSense V2.99 -->\n\n<p>The behaviour of normal people is rarely appropriate.  How could it be!  Because normal behaviour is generated automatically \u2013 you don\u2019t have to think about it, you just react \u2013 by your subconscious mind.  Your subconscious mind is highly efficient at creating your reactions \u2013 it is this ability that has got us so far as the \u2018superior\u2019 species.  But, as we\u2019ve already said, normal behaviour is rarely appropriate \u2013 because your subconscious mind is constantly focused on the past \u2013 your childhood years \u2013 and it uses this out-of-date \u2018stored knowledge\u2019 to dictate your current automatic behaviour.   With information that is way past its sell-by date being used to enable you react, how could today\u2019s behaviour be appropriate to what is actually happening now?<\/p>\n<p>How could it be appropriate when you understand that the normal person is forever in this automatic reactive mode?   Unfortunately, it\u2019s just the way we\u2019re built.  If you\u2019re <a href='http:\/\/www.gurdy.net' target='_blank'>having a good day<\/a>, your behaviour can actually be mildly effective \u2013 that\u2019s in comparison to how effective you could actually be had you taken the trouble to focus on what\u2019s actually happening and act, rather than react.  But even then, normal people only have good days now and again.  It\u2019s the normal not-too-bad days that have consigned your life to that mundane, repetitive, not-too-bad life \u2013 you know, the one where really great things rarely happen, the one where you don\u2019t like your job or the one where your relationship has gone off the boil \u2013 the ordinary stuff of the normal life.   And on those routine not-too-bad days, normal behaviour varies from midldly in-effective to inappropriate to off-the-wall outrageous.  People losing the head in rush hour traffic, people bullying their subordinates at work or who play with their workers\u2019 lives.  Husbands who beat wives, wives who beat husbands \u2013 or just the normal not-so-bad inertia of \u2018I wish I was somewhere else\u2019 and all the anxiety that that brings with it. <\/p>\n<p>The problem is, however, that we confuse our behaviour with who we are \u2013 a criminal mistake that leads us into recrimination, guilt, frustration, anxiety and even more inappropriate behaviour.   You are not your behaviour.   How could you be?  Your behaviour is automatically created by your <a href='http:\/\/www.gurdy.net' target='_blank'>personality<\/a> \u2013 all the crap of \u2018stored knowledge\u2019 in your subconscious mind.  Your personality has absolutely nothing to do with you \u2013 there\u2019s a wealth of psychological research amassed over the last seven decades that proves this.<\/p>\n<p>So here\u2019s the deal.  You can only take truly appropriate action (rather than normal reaction) by deliberately side-stepping your ego or personality \u2013 this is the essence of <a href='http:\/\/www.gurdy.net' target='_blank'>personal development<\/a> (as distinct from personality development).   You will not be able to do that until you realize that all inappropriate action comes from that source.   What\u2019s done is done \u2013 if damage was done, go and undo it.  But you only damaged your own self-image, then, get forget it, it\u2019s past, you need to get on with your life \u2013 starting right now.<\/p>\n<iframe src=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/plugins\/like.php?href=http%3A%2F%2Fwisdomhealthprosperity.com%2Fselfimprovementmastery%2Fyour-personality-you%25e2%2580%2599re-not-your-personality%2F&amp;layout=standard&amp;show_faces=true&amp;width=450&amp;action=like&amp;colorscheme=light&amp;height=80\" scrolling=\"no\" frameborder=\"0\" style=\"border:none; overflow:hidden; width:450px; height:80px;\" allowTransparency=\"true\"><\/iframe><div class=\"addtoany_share_save_container\"><div class=\"a2a_kit addtoany_list\"><a class=\"a2a_dd addtoany_share_save\" href=\"http:\/\/www.addtoany.com\/share_save\"><img src=\"http:\/\/wisdomhealthprosperity.com\/selfimprovementmastery\/wp-content\/plugins\/add-to-any\/share_save_256_24.png\" width=\"256\" height=\"24\" alt=\"Share\"\/><\/a><\/div>\n<script type=\"text\/javascript\"><!--\nvar a2a_config = a2a_config || {};\na2a_config.linkname=\"Your Personality: You\u2019re Not Your Personality\";\na2a_config.linkurl=\"http:\/\/wisdomhealthprosperity.com\/selfimprovementmastery\/your-personality-you%e2%80%99re-not-your-personality\/\";\na2a_config.onclick=1;\na2a_config.show_title=1;\n\/\/--><\/script><script type=\"text\/javascript\" src=\"http:\/\/static.addtoany.com\/menu\/page.js\"><\/script>\n\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The behaviour of normal people is rarely appropriate. 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