Are you happy with your life or, indeed, with yourself? In all probability that there are things that you would like to change about both you and your life – I’ve rarely come across anybody who is unconditionally happy. Of course, people often imagine that if they improve themselves, get fit, buy a new car, go on a great holiday that, then, they’ll be happy. That kind of ‘happy’, however, is fleeting and superficial. Real happiness should be lasting and not based on having this or doing that.
The only place that you discover happiness is within. Sadly, that is a foreign country to the vast majority of people[spin] because the normal person’s ‘within’ is [spin]hidden from them by what psychologists call ‘The Sentry’, a defence mechanism that we’ve all got which prevents other people getting into our heads to brainwash us. Unfortunately, this ‘Sentry’ keeps us out too! For a very good reason – or, at least, it appears reasonable until you venture a closer look at how we operate – our beliefs about how the world works and ourselves are stored in our subconscious. You wouldn’t want to go messing with those, would you? Or would you? Because most of us believe that we’re inadequate at least in some way, most of us aren’t 100% happy with who we are. That’s because our beliefs aren’t grounded in fact but on an accumulation of what might be called the programming or conditioning that we were subject to during what is generally described as our formative years. This programming or conditioning is both the source of your unease with yourself and, just as importantly, everything that you believe to be wrong with your life currently.
Our reality is created from beliefs – it is our own personal beliefs that automatically dictate our behaviour, our actions, our reactions and our interactions with others. It is through this process that we, ourselves, create our version of reality. What’s going on in your head, at the deepest subconscious level, literally creates your life. And it’s not real, it’s concocted from what others did to us or for us during those formative years. So of course you’d want to go messing with your beliefs, because normal beliefs hold normal people back.
You’ve got to go beyond your beliefs. You must get to the inner real you, to find true happiness – that is where you’ll unearth a you that is unstained by the crap of normal conditioning, unspoilt by all the beliefs that mess up our normal lives – crazy beliefs that keep us in our place – like we should know our place, like you’ve got to work hard to be a success, like pain is never far behind pleasure, that pride comes before a fall – prepare your own list.
Forget that nonsense. Indeed, forget about who you thought you were and discover who you really are – and the life that you can really have. Your mind’s obsessed with the normal crap – stop it. I offer my clients various forms of ‘mental calming measures’ – meditation if you will – you’ve got to calm down, wake up and see the light. Only then you will find true happiness.
